Comments on: Sex and Sentiment http://unscriptured.com/2008/02/08/sex-and-sentiment/ and now, a word from our creator Tue, 22 May 2012 02:36:40 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.4 by: some poor unfortunate soul http://unscriptured.com/2008/02/08/sex-and-sentiment/#comment-570 Sat, 09 Feb 2008 07:22:49 +0000 http://unscriptured.com/2008/02/08/sex-and-sentiment/#comment-570 Romance is easy to define; it means a language based on Latin a really long time ago, right? Okay, maybe that's not what you meant. I think that romantic love is more about getting all mushy and sentimental and less about lust or partnership or any of those other things that I think go into a fulfilling significant-other kinda love. I've had flirtations that are all about feeling sexy and making the other person feel sexy and not much at all about wanting sex. I think that I've had crushes that I would define as romantic, flushed with warm, fuzzy daydreams and unrealistic ideals but that weren't about wanting sex either. And I've wanted sex from people who didn't once inspire any feelings I would call romantic. I think that lust and romance are just two different ingredients that may or may not be in the love one feels for another, but that they are separate from each other. They're separate from love too, a person can have romantic feelings for someone they don't know well enough to really love. Romance is the natural equivalent of beer-goggles. It puts things into a softer, more forgiving, focus and sets a fertile ground for feeling all those other things. That's what I think. --Crystal Romance is easy to define; it means a language based on Latin a really long time ago, right? Okay, maybe that’s not what you meant.

I think that romantic love is more about getting all mushy and sentimental and less about lust or partnership or any of those other things that I think go into a fulfilling significant-other kinda love. I’ve had flirtations that are all about feeling sexy and making the other person feel sexy and not much at all about wanting sex. I think that I’ve had crushes that I would define as romantic, flushed with warm, fuzzy daydreams and unrealistic ideals but that weren’t about wanting sex either. And I’ve wanted sex from people who didn’t once inspire any feelings I would call romantic. I think that lust and romance are just two different ingredients that may or may not be in the love one feels for another, but that they are separate from each other. They’re separate from love too, a person can have romantic feelings for someone they don’t know well enough to really love. Romance is the natural equivalent of beer-goggles. It puts things into a softer, more forgiving, focus and sets a fertile ground for feeling all those other things. That’s what I think.

–Crystal

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